Grhamedi

HH JAS: So... yan maithunādi-gṛhamedhi-sukhaḿ... gṛhamedhi-sukhaḿ means the happiness of materialistic Householder Life, maithunādi, maithunādi means beginning from sex pleasure, (sanskrit),and maithunādi, from sex pleasure, direct sex pleasure, all the other so called pleasures of materialistic family life expand: home and children and so many things or even Prabhupada said skyscraper buildings and big cities there all manifestations of sex life: materialistic householders are increasingly absorbing themselves in the mode of passion and impelled by that passionate mode of which sex life is the central point they are building things and constructing things and expanding their empires all for the same central point. So, maithunādi-gṛhamedhi-sukhaḿ hi tucchaḿ... tucchaḿ means insignificant.
All this big deal is being made about what Srila Prabhupada calls the sensational happiness of sex life and Prahlada Maharaja says it’s nothing, even clinically speaking a few minutes of sex pleasure or sexual intercourse(a loud airplane fly’s overhead)... This is also a manifestation of sex life
(Question from audience)7th Canto Chapter 9 Text 45. So tucchaḿ,it’s insignificant, it’s there in every species of life, mosquitoes also have sex life and it’s a big thing for them...but what is it? How important or significant do we think a mosquitoes sex life is? But for the mosquito it's crucial, it's the ultimate high point of his existence. So maithunādi gṛhamedhi-sukhaḿ hi tucchaḿ kaṇḍūyanena karayor iva duḥkha-duḥkham ... kaṇḍūyanena karayor...the example given is that its like its scratching an itch, someone has a itching sensation and he scratches it and the result of scratching is that it itches more and the result of itching more is that he scratches more and itches and scratches, itches and scratches, that’s sex life... kaṇḍūyanena karayor iva duḥkha-duḥkham...that’s the comparison, simply scratching an itch and the itch doesn’t go away it gets worse.
Iva duḥkha-duḥkham, the consequence of that sex life is unhappiness. Unhappiness, first of all because it’s tucchaḿ, it’s insignificant so everyone is disappointed...there’s a Latin proverb which in English means “All animals are sad after sex.” All animals are sad after sex, so much endeavor: Male elephants are fighting over the female elephants and this whole huge thing is going on and then they get it and afterwards such a disappointment... tucchaḿ, insignificant and bahu-duḥkha-bhājaḥ, so much trouble, so many difficulties come, either because it's illicit sex and then there's pregnancy or abortion or there has to be contraception or there's attachment and then there's hatred also in the relationship.(Excerpts from seminar: HOPES AND HORRORS OF HOUSEHOLDER LIFE – SWAMI JAYADVAITA 1992 - PART 4)